Walls are built to protect and defend...  against what?

What Walls Have You Built?


We build walls…not so much to keep people out, well, not really. So we’re told.

I recall about 10 years ago when my daughter was 10, she turned to me with great wisdom in her childlike innocence and asked:

“Daddy, why do all the advertisements talk about sex but we’re not supposed to?”

A cultural wall, an inconsistency…. I just love my daughter… she notices the things that just don’t make sense.

Walls are built to protect and defend, against what?

The lyrics to the words “Mother” by Pink Floyd speak abrasivly about the socialization process that takes place in most ‘normal’ families. It’s normal, really.

Back in the days before ‘technology’ as we know it children we were warned not to wander too far into the forest, lest dangerous animals might attach or eat us. Then in many cultures the males, were taught to hunt and kill these animals for food and protection of the village, the community, their families.

So think about that for a moment: pre-adolescent boys were taught to harness their fear, courage and I’ll add: their hunt, their cunning, perhaps their rage, anger, and undoubtedly their ability to kill, in some cases to kill or be killed.

Now our human hardwiring has not changed very much at all in the last, what 300 years. How do you think the hormonal driven aggressive urges or pre adolescent and older boys are channeled? Are they owned? Are they denied?

What about their sexual impulses? What have their families, their schools and communities told them and showed them? what are the messages they hear from our culture at large. and what about the girls?

Let us all as parents be VERY conscious of our own beliefs and values and just exactly what we are passing down to our young…

My values: be honest, be real, learn, laugh, love, repeat.

Here are the words to “Mother” from Pink Floyd’s “The Wall”.

Mother (Waters) 5:32

Mother do you think they’ll drop the bomb?
Mother do you think they’ll like this song?
Mother do you think they’ll try to break my balls?
Mother should I build the wall?
Mother should I run for president?
Mother should I trust the government?
Mother will they put me in the firing line?
Mother am I really dying?

Hush now baby, baby, dont you cry.
Mother’s gonna make all your nightmares come true.
Mother’s gonna put all her fears into you.
Mother’s gonna keep you right here under her wing.
She wont let you fly, but she might let you sing.
Mama will keep baby cozy and warm.
Ooooh baby ooooh baby oooooh baby,
Of course mama’ll help to build the wall.

Mother do you think she’s good enough — to me?
Mother do you think she’s dangerous — to me?
Mother will she tear your little boy apart?
Mother will she break my heart?

Hush now baby, baby dont you cry.
Mama’s gonna check out all your girlfriends for you.
Mama wont let anyone dirty get through.
Mama’s gonna wait up until you get in.
Mama will always find out where you’ve been.
Mama’s gonna keep baby healthy and clean.
Ooooh baby oooh baby oooh baby,
You’ll always be baby to me.

Mother, did it need to be so high?


1 Response » to “What Walls Have You Built? What are you passing on to your young?”

  1. Those are really a girls worst problem, i’ve been coping with these for so long as i can don’t forget, delighted to understand there is some hope ?- what took you so lengthy !

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