At one time or another we are all new to the BDSM or Kinky “scene”.
It’s a simple fact of living. Anytime, before we do anything at all, we are ‘new’ to it!
Here is but one perspective of a new male “Dominant” seeking female submissives, and a bit of advice on “How To”. If you are new to the scene, or simply considering exploring, please read… and write me with any other questions, comments or input you might have @ Jim@BDSMcoach.comcastbiz.net.
Hello, bit new to the scene here, but learning, so if any corrections/ terminology is a bit off, feel free to correct and clarify. I’ve recently encountered a new sub, as relatively inexperienced as myself, to explore with. The core of a healthy dominant/submissive relationship is trust, and trust building with an inexperienced dom- well I’m worried about pitfalls along the way. Any commentary or suggestions, possible insights would be greatly appreciated.
The core of healthy D/s relationships may be trust… although I like to think of the primary components of a relationship more as a wheel than “one core”; here are a few of those pieces of the wheel: Trust, Honesty, Ongoing Communication, Knowledge/Ability/Experience, & Self Awareness/Love.
I do invite others to name All or more spokes of this wheel!
Here are a few suggestions:
Most important! Be honest with whoever you are dealing with, without reservation.
Ok, now the easier stuff:
If you have a partner or friend who is willing to “play” understanding that you are learning…. Then Play! Learn! Explore!
If you are seeking a sub to help you learn, you’ve already started a power imbalance. You are giving the sub the lead in helping you to learn. Very cool if this is a friend, companion, partner; yet a less then optimal start in seeking a submissive.
If truly new and learning then let them know you want to learn and seek their cooperation.
If already confident in your ability to “lead, dom, master”, then go for it AND be clear about the limits, boundaries and extent of your play and your relationship.
I invite many more ideas.
I invite your questions, comments or input too Jim@BDSMcoach.comcastbiz.net