Recently I was the guest speaker on “The Deviant Minds Salon”… (download here) the title referred to such terms as Enneagram and NeuroLinguistic Programming and Kink… however, the bigger story, the bigger picture is about using available tools to build your relationships.
Lot’s of folks believe and act as if relationships ‘happen’… I hear phrases like: “It’s chemistry,” or “We fell in love on the second date,”… as well as “Our relationship fell apart,” and “We just don’t play together anymore.”
Yes, things happen. But we are not rocks or billiard balls, we are humans. We have consciousness, we are writers, directors and actors of our worlds. It is WE, US, each one of us who decides…
But if you never know you have a choice, do you really have one?
I believe that all of us make the best choices we possibly can give the information we have. Whether it be money, dieting, or relationships, we are always deciding- consciously or not.
Historically dating and mating have left us with a rising 67% divorce rate. When we begin with what we want for ourselves, we can be conscious and find prospective dates and mates just as we would our ideal home or job. When we leave our relationship beginnings up to ‘chemistry’; when we allow our relationships to grow on automatic pilot, we eliminate our consciousness from our most important of relationships.
Is your relationship all you want it to be? If not, what if it was?
Are you seeking an honest, fulfilling relationship? Then start seeking with eyes wide open! Ask the hard questions right away, the one’s that matter to you.
Don’t know where to start? Start here: Building Lasting Relationships
Blessings Great People!